Honoring the gift...

Written by Laura Frances

Life moves so fast these days. Sometimes a week or two will pass before I realized I haven't been writing. And I start to feel it.

Writing has a soothing effect on my brain (most of the time lol there are exceptions). It's why for several years, the years my children were young, I wrote at night.

Once teeth were brushed and jammies were on.

Once bedtime prayers and goodnight songs were sung.

Once they finally fell asleep after coming out a few times asking for water and hugs and how electricity works.

The soft breathing of sleep would finally drift from their doorways, and I'd tiptoe to the living room or my bed and crack open the laptop.

Writing creatively accesses a different part of my brain. (I'm sure there's real science behind that, and I'd love to hear about it in the comments!) It switches me out of "mom" mode and into a completely different thought process. Anxiety sheds away. Stress dissolves. And for those minutes or hours I get to create stories in new worlds with new characters...I'm finding pieces of myself again.

I don't believe it's wrong to admit to losing ourselves a little in motherhood. I love my children. I wouldn't want any other life. But they (and my husband) are my primary earthly focus, and forgetting to nurture the gifts and desires within myself is inevitable sometimes. I hope you don't feel guilt in admitting this if you find the same to be true for you. You can love your family and recognize the need for balance. It's okay.

I've learned over the years that neglecting what many women refer to as "me time" does have a negative effect on the atmosphere of our home. But I think we should define "me time" too, because what I'm referring to isn't self-centered or driven by bitterness or resent for my children or husband.

Remember: The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. -Proverbs 14:1

{I'd caution you to guard your heart against bitterness, grudges, and resentment...or even jealousy of your husband's perceived freedom to chase his ambitions if you're a stay at home mom. Embracing love and kindness...forgiveness and grace...will not only foster peace in your home, but also peace in your own heart.}

What I mean, instead, is nurturing my spirit through time in worship. Through reading the Word and getting a few minutes alone to pray...even if that means I have to wake up before the sun. Or while I rocked my baby into a nap.

What I also mean is taking time to grow in the areas the Father has gifted me. And one of those areas is writing.

When I carve out time to write, taking care that all my priorities are in line, I'm honoring God and the precious gift He's hand-picked for me. I'm showing gratitude and respect for His wisdom in choosing me for this task.

This can be so hard when they're really young. Be patient. Life changes fast.

Take heart this week, dear friend! The struggle is shared. But I'm here for you! As are so many other CWMs. Reach out if you're feeling overwhelmed and let us know how we can pray or help.

Feel free to write out your experiences and how God is teaching you, and email me your post submission at christianwritermoms@gmail.com


Laura Frances grew up a shy thing, always daydreaming. She is now the author of the Slave series, a clean, dystopian story. Residing in midwest America as a wife, mother, homeschool teacher, and writer, Frances strives to convince others through the art of storytelling that they can do the things they think they can't.

You can follow her at www.laurafranceswriter.com

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